Which Dinner Party Person Are You?
An analysis of each party attendee and a quick and anonymous poll.
Please take the poll below according to what experience connects most with you. Keep in mind that these are archetypes. In reality, we are a mix of vibes, with some being more dominant.
I’ve included brief summaries of each vibe below the poll. If you prefer, leave a comment or reply to this message to share your choice.
The poll will be live for one week.
Vibe Summaries:
Pablo the Performer
Sees the event as a stage: chooses outfit, studies guest list, plans his role.
Thrives on attention: inserts himself into conversations, scans who’s getting noticed.
Crafts social image: monitors how others perceive him, adjusts what he says to impress.
Energized by social action: high “social battery,” feels alive in dynamic interactions.
Reflects on how people came across: dresses, demeanor, impact—views the party as performance and measurement.
👉 Read about Pablo’s experience at the party
Lena the Feeler
Sensitive to emotional tone: even before arrival she senses responsibility and anxiety about the invitation.
Attuned to others’ feelings: notices someone appears sullen and engages gently to help.
High sensory/emotional intensity: describes life as “volume of reality turned up.”
Values comfort and relational connection: chooses an understated outfit and seat next to someone she trusts.
Socially drained by the event: enjoys it but it takes its toll — relieved to go home and recharge.
👉 Read about Lena’s experience at the party
Erik the Analyst
Prefers clarity, structure, utility: thinks about functionality vs fashion, dislikes ambiguous social norms.
Mentally scripts social entry and flow: arrival, small talk, scanning room… all require concentration.
Observant of details others might ignore: cheese board, bookshelf arrangement, music volume.
Prefers direct questions and deep topics over small talk and surface banter.
Reflective about what works for him: acknowledges social energy drain, uses guardrails, enjoys home as a reset.
👉 Read about Erik’s experience at the party
Samantha the Natural
Calibrates with ease: pleasant, composed entrance; merges into the environment rather than dominating it.
Comfortable authenticity: picks attire that works broadly, values quality but not flamboyance.
Intuitive relational sense: senses when someone is uncomfortable and gently steers toward a more comfortable interaction.
Quietly engaged, not showy: “just off the stage, observant, and in the moment.”
Consistent self-presence: “What you see is what you get,” values being the same person across settings.
👉 Read about Samantha’s experience at the party
After a short break, I’ll be back with more.
Hello, My name is Lena. Whew, that’s enough socialization. I need to go home and read.
I better change my name to Eric :)